Alan Pardew last night confirmed he will seek professional help in a bid to cure the anger issues which came close to losing the Newcastle United manager his job.
The 52-year-old is to have counselling and has spoken to people in the corporate world who are experts in dealing with stress and pressure.
Pardew was speaking publicly for the first time since the incident at Hull with David Meyler, which has cost him £160,000 in total fines, a three-game stadium fan and four games from the touchline.
He did his best to get over the point he fully appreciated the seriousness of his behaviour and insisted he would do everything in his power to make sure it doesn’t happen again.
Pardew said: “I’ve spoken to a few CEOs who have management counselling, in terms of how to do their job better.
“I think that is an avenue that might work for me.
“I have spoken to Richard Bevan (chairman of the League Manager’s Association) who has been a great help in terms of finding someone who is going to work for me and just bounce ideas off.
“Not necessarily just about the touchline and the pressures of the job I’m under, just normal managerial decisions that I make.
“The big question for me when this incident happened is ‘how am I going to be a better manager out of it?’
“I don’t want to be a worse manager, I don’t want to lose that drive and passion I have, but I am going to have tochannel it a little bit better. I don’t think the consultants would be from football.
“I think it will be someone different, maybe someone from outside the game who has a different perspective, somebody from a business background.
“In the city, if you were a top CEO, you would have one, the company would make sure you had one.
“I’m as probably as important as them with the position I am in. That is something I am hoping is a positive for me.”
Pardew told Tuesday’s FA disciplinary meeting he was prepared to speak with various people in the near future, something which may have saved him an even bigger punishment.
He added: “There was no point for me to just accept the punishment. I thought I needed to tell the FA I’m going to do something about it. I think they wanted to hear that.
“Whether that will have any impact on the decision, I don’t know, but that was one of the key reasons I went.”
Pardew revealed he has watched the incident “2,000 times now” and admitted it did not look any better the more he viewed it.
He has also written a letter of apology to Hull manager Steve Bruce.
John Carver will be in charge of the team during the match at Fulham tomorrow.
Pardew said: “At the time I did not think it was bad as it was on TV.
“The bottom line was I should never have got involved and walked forward when he (Meyler) pushed me.”
When asked if he felt Mike Ashley could have taken the decision to sack him, Pardew said: “It is a relief (he didn’t lose his job).
“Men make mistakes. I make mine in front of millions.
“When you make a mistake you have to pay a price. It was a hefty price.
“Mike acted swiftly (to fine him £100,000). In this interim period the backing I have had from the club in particular has been a big help because it has been difficult.
“I must become a better manager, I have had 678 games and only had one touchline ban.
“I am going to sit down from now on. I will get my head around it, and the way to take the team forward - but I won’t take out my desire to win and I have to channel it the right way.”
Pardew admitted he experienced a long weekend after the Hull match.
He said: “ I had lots of messages of support, not that I deserved sympathy, and it still nice to have that support from colleagues friends and family.”