Guide to life

Some time ago my stepdaughter Zoe rang me to express her concerns at running two races at school the next day, one race being the 200 metres sprint and the other, 400 metres.

Some time ago my stepdaughter Zoe rang me to express her concerns at running two races at school the next day, one race being the 200 metres sprint and the other, 400 metres. All she could focus on at the time was the fact that there were a few girls running the same races who were better and faster than her.

I suggested that rather than focus her thoughts and attention on what other people can do, she focussed on giving 100% to both races, imagining herself crossing the finishing line knowing she had given her very best.

"No-one can defeat us unless we first defeat ourselves" - Dwight Eisenhower.

She went on to win gold for the 400 metres and bronze for the 200 metres sprint!

This was around the time I started my business and gave me an early opportunity to learn more about coaching to help my clients focus on going for gold in life, focusing on how to be their best, with a lot less focus on what other people do, think or say.

Why do you think we compare ourselves to others so much, wasting valuable time worrying what other people think of us? Does this make us happy? Does this support us at being the best we can be? I don't think so.

It's great to have role models to aspire to - nothing wrong with that at all. Role models give us the opportunity to aim really high.

When I am doing business coaching, in particular with clients who are sole traders just starting up in business, or those who are setting new goals and business plans, I might ask who they think of as great role models in business who motivate and inspire them. Typically reference is made to names such as Richard Branson, one of our great British Entrepreneurs, Alan Sugar, founder of Amstrad, and Anita Roderick, founder of the Body Shop. These people are fantastic examples of winners in life, men and women who have achieved amazing success. I don't suppose they worry much what other people think of them, and you can be sure they focus on winning not losing. "Winners compare their achievements with their goals, while losers compare their achievements with those of other people" - Nido Qubein.

By all means value the opinions of people you respect and trust, but why not spend more time focussing on what you want to achieve, then doing your best to reach your gold in life for anything your heart desires.

To find out more about Jayne Goldstone or services provided by Making A Difference, ring (01661) 821886, email info@jaynegoldstone .com or visit www.jaynegoldstone.com

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